If you have ears to hear, every wedding is an echo of the joyful shouts from atop New Jerusalem. Christ has chosen His Bride, and the Spirit and the Bride declare He is coming quickly. We hear, and see, and feel faintly here in this wedding realities whose roots go down deeper than a sequoia and whose heights are higher than Everest. I want to highlight three of those realities today: joy, mercy, and love.
First, joy. We ought to remember that happiness is less than joy. Joy is not tied to circumstance, for it is an attribute of God Himself. If God was dependent on circumstance to be joyful, then He would not be God. The Psalmist tells us that in His presence is the fulness of joy. Which means that joy, true 100-proof joy is not ruffled by storms, or sin, or tragedy, or triumphs. The joy that you both taste in each other’s presence––and that is enjoyed in the consummation of your marriage vows––is a real joy. It is not a counterfeit. However, you must remember that it is the appetizer and not the feast. Furthermore, your joy in each other will only last as long as you each say of the Lord: He is the joy and rejoicing of my heart (Jer. 15:16). For the Joy of God is found in His very being, and not in fleeting circumstances. One of you will depart this life before the other, more than likely, and this will be a great sorrow; but the Joy of the Lord endures through all earthly sorrows and swallows them up like the ocean swallows a thimbleful of freshwater.
Second, mercy. The old phrase which preachers use to define mercy is indeed true: mercy is God not giving us what our sin deserves. This is the Gospel footings upon which a Christian household might be erected. Your sins, though scarlet, have been passed over, and the wrath you deserved has been poured out upon Christ. In a Christian marriage, you should frequently look at your spouse and give thanks that God gave them to you, despite all your sin, and folly, and failures. Your sin deserved death, but God grants to you, by faith in Christ, tender-mercies without number. Amongst those manifold mercies is this mercy of marriage. This union is truly a mercy. It comforts you in your solitude, it brings about godly offspring, and it allows you to image forth the union of Christ and His Bride. This mercy God has shown to you, you now are called to show to each other. You must forgive as Christ forgave, extend mercy as God has done for you, and rather than imitate the Accuser of the brethren, you are to remind each other of the great mercy of God.
Third, love. By this I don’t refer to the feeling of mere affection and attraction which we humans usually use the word love to describe. Rather, I refer the agape of God. This is love whose borders are the delight which God takes in His Son, and which sent that beloved Son to die for sinners. This is a love that makes lovely. This is a love that makes the dead live, the blind see, the deaf hear, the lame to leap. Mere attraction will not bind you to your marriage vows. Rather, looking to a bloody cross, with God’s own beloved Son upon it in order to deliver His enemies from Satan’s power, is the only soil in which your marital love can flourish. It is this love that dies which you are called upon to imitate.
Nathaniel, God is bringing you into the high and holy office of husband. From this day forward you are an imitator of Christ in a more profound and significant way than you’ve ever been before. This means that you must be a man who is good at dying. You must die to yourself a thousand times a day to imitate this dying love of Christ Your Savior. This dying is not so that Stacie always gets her way. Rather, it’s so that you are putting to death all of your selfishness, which includes the selfishness of failing to lead your family decisively, gently, and boldly. This lifestyle of dying is to be done on the firm footing which I just described: joy in God, trust in His mercy, and enjoyment of God’s love to you through Christ in order to rightly love this closest and dearest neighbor which He has brought to your side.
Stacie, a bride is often described as radiant, and this is because she has this marvelous power of being the light and glory of her husband. But like a flashlight with old batteries, the glow will fade if you replace contentment with resentment and warm affection with grumbling lectures. You are called to be a bright light in your husband’s life. A light of wisdom, honor, industry, and affection. He will be called to walk through dark valleys, and God has given you to him in order to be a light in darkness, a pleasure in the midst of the pains, a warmth in the coldness. You cannot be this radiant glory unto your husband if you confuse pride with humility. You too must find joy in the Lord, rejoice in His free mercy, and praise the Father for the love which He lavishes upon you through Christ. Joy, mercy, and love humbly received from God, and then passed along to your husband is how God summons you as a wife to be a vessel of Christ’s light in your husband’s life.
In the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, amen.
Benediction
May the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who sent His beloved Son to die for the sins of the world, and whose Spirit assures the saints that this eternal love is ours, fill this household just established with His joy, mercy, and love. May the union of their vows and their bodies bear the fruit of children who are faithful to worship the Living God. May Nathaniel be full of vigor for the glory of God, and may Stacie be resplendent with unswerving faith. May the gates of hell ever tremble before the glory of Christ which is displayed in this marriage. And may they be brought at last to dwell in the everlasting Halls of the Triune God. In the name of King Jesus, Amen.